True Love vs True Lust

Over the years since I first set off on this journey of discovery, I have unabashedly inquired of couples as to the circumstances of their courtship. Specifically how did they meet each other in the first place? How soon after meeting each other did they engage in an intimate physical relationship? I learned that when a couple met as friends and only months or sometimes years later became involved in an intimate relationship, they appeared to me to be far happier than those who met initially with the expressed purpose of dating one another. 

Therefore, I have concluded that like with most aspects of our lives the old ways are the best ways. 

In order to find true love, you need to wait to get to know the person as just a person without clouding your judgement with lust. As we know once the lust wears off in a few months we all begin to examine the true nature of our attraction towards our new mate to determine if it's really true love or simply true lust. 

How to Get Lucky with Your Wife?

When the sizzle has gone out of your relationship as it almost inevitably does, you need to inject vitality through spontaneity and random acts of thoughtfulness.

Husbands:

If you would like to encourage more affection in the bedroom then you need to seduce her just as you did in the beginning. When you first became enamored with your wife you were doubtless very attentive, your objective was to capture her attention, respect and love. 

Suggestions:

• change cologne or begin wearing it again
• do one of her chores for her 
• plan a weekend getaway 
• design a date night around her interests not yours
• pamper night including a joint bathing experience & candles
• compliment her appearance and use her name
• be extra helpful with the kids and housekeeping
• flirt with her make suggestive yet subtle comments as a warm up for bedroom activity

Wives:

You need to show your appreciation for all that your husband does including thanking him for little chores he regularly does for you. Invite him to make decisions about what activities you share. Compliment him using his name and allow him to take the lead.

Suggestions:

• let him suggest what you order for dinner and allow him to order for you
• make reservations at his favorite restaurant  
• flirt with him teasing him with suggestive comments 
• appreciate his effort and hint about the potential for getting lucky that night
• have his favorite meals on the table ready when he returns from work
• plan a romantic night with variety
• be mysterious keep him guessing about what you may do next
• speak in a low voice looking directly into his eyes
• outside of the bedroom keep it light and funny

History of Love Chat with Lisa

Mating Habits in the Digital Age

The Man Rules

Portland Perspectives- Gender Role Confusion & Keeping the Joy

Why do Men Lie to Women?

High School Guys on Love Chat